‘People Be Baby Crazy:’ An Open Letter from Amanda
So, this is something I feel a little uncomfortable talking about just because of the sensitive nature of the topic and I really don’t need friends getting angry with me.
However, it’s just something I need to get off my chest.
I feel like everyone my age lately is BABY CRAZY! I just don’t get it.
I have two very good friends in Wisconsin.
Both of them have them have been in long-term relationships with their boyfriends (much like me), and both are 23 — the same age I am.
They are both baby crazy.
I just don’t understand it. I don’t see them often. However, when I do, it’s one of the main topics of discussion. They can’t wait to get married (which they totally brush over) and have their youngsters.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I don’t mind kids. I don’t have a phobia against kids. I understand how parents feel fulfillment in having children of their own.
However, the issue I take with this is the fact that they cannot understand why I don’t want kids right this very second.
I hear their comments all the freaking time:
“Why don’t you want kids?”
“You’d be a great mom!”
“Oh, you’ll want one some day.”
How do you know? How could you possibly know I’ll want one some day?
I totally respect the fact that you want children. Why can’t you respect the fact that I don’t, right now, and there’s a possibility that I may not in the future.
Anyone out there who can think of something (not hurtful) to say to them without it ensuing an argument?